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I have a bridesmaid who just informed that she and her husband are planning on getting pregnant in Sept. I am happy for her however my wedding is in May of 2010. That is going to make her 8-9 months pregnant. How do I tell her I am a little upset about it without sounding like a bridezilla? When I mentioned it to her she shook it off and said I should be happy no matter what size she is. It is not about that at all though this is her first child and she is going to be busy planning showers and parties for herself and the wedding and not too mention uncomfortable (as I know because I have a nine year old daughter). PLease help : (

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The operative word here is that they're "planning" to get pregnant in September. Just because a couple plans to, it doesn't always work out that way.

But I also agree with the previous sentiments that you should be happy for your friend, especially being a mom yourself!

Of course, it's up to the bridesmaid to decide when she should have a baby. . . but considering the cost associated
with being a bridesmaids (dress-which may or may not fit, shower, gifts, possibly traveling or a hotel stay, etc.)
AND considering that she has no clue as to how her health will be . . . AND considering your issues . . . SHE
should have politely declined the invitation to be a bridesmaid. She obviouly has other priorites now.
HOWEVER . . . I made a cousin (who HATES to have her photo taken) an "Honorary Bridesmaid". She chipped in
a little towards the shower, helped address invitations, was invited to all the parties, etc. I asked her to wear
a color similar to the other bridesmaids the day of the wedding and I got her a corsage. Her name was listed
as Honorary Bridesmaid in the wedding program, and she and her husband got a seat in the second row at the
wedding and a seat with my godparents at the reception. I have other friends who have done similar things.
(One cousin had a bridesmaid who was undergoing cancer treatment . . . she wanted her to be in the wedding
party, but didn't want her to spend money and then not be able to show up.) My suggestion, keep her
in the wedding party, and IF she gets pregnant, when it comes time to order her dress, suggest the
honorary postion . . . but don't ask her to chip in for gifts, etc.

I do have to say that that is just wrong ::.. i am getting married in june & my maid of honor = friend for almost 10yrs will b almost 9 months prego & i am more than happy for her & we r actually planning my bridal shower & her baby shower at the same time to elminate the hastle of getting everyone 2gether twice!!!! i think u need to re think what u r doing if u r really worried about yr friend being prego at your wedding ::.. u should b happy not ungrateful

I am getting married in May next year also and have a bridesmaid and friend of 21 years who would like to get pregnant around the same time. I think you should be happy that she is taking a step foward in her life and that she still would wants to embrace in your special day when she could be doing so many other things to plan for her new baby. She could have said no and then how would you have felt.

What's wrong with having a pregnant woman in your wedding? As long as she doesn't mind you really shouldn't either. I see where you're coming from with her being busy but the wedding may be a nice chance for her to get dressed up and feel good- You really do sound like a bridezilla getting upset about this.. You should be happy for new life, it's not like she did it to take away your shine on your special day. I would just let it go and try to be more glass half full!!